What men need to understand about relationships
When there is a crisis or breakup between partners because of strong emotions, the primal, unconscious mechanisms often take over. Many times I’ve seen men use the same strategies that worked in relationships with their mothers...
Why the change needs to be holistic
When you’re making a significant personal change, you will have to alter many aspects of your life. Sometimes this happens automatically, but most often it doesn’t. For example, when an alcoholic decides that he is finally going...
What Should You Use Instead of Affirmations?
Affirmations—in which you repeat or write down positive words and sentences so that they can be absorbed by the subconsciousness—are very popular among people starting their adventure with self-development. No wonder: they are...
This one question will totally change the way you think about your goals
There is one extremely important question, which I always ask my clients while they make their long-term plans. Sadly, many coaches avoid it. Even more sadly, it is treated as taboo, as it may”attract negative thoughts” or...
Does Calhoun’s Shocking Experiment Reveal the Condition of Our Society?
“Shocking experiment reveals the condition of our society!” Such a headline is usually tied to articles describing Dr. John Calhoun’s behavior experiments. Obviously, there’s a reason for that. Among other things,...
Everything you believe about self-confidence is a lie
Well, kind of. Shy people, and people with confidence problems, do not generally lack self-esteem. In fact, they tend to have the opposite problem—they have an inflated sense of their own importance! I first encountered this idea...
4 Truths About Existence That Are Difficult To Accept
If you believe that personal development is all about seeing the world through rose-coloured glasses, telling yourself positive affirmations and believing that anything is possible – you’d better leave this piece and go back to...
How to Be a Real Man?
How to be a real man? An extremely important question to a great number of guys (and a moderate number of their partners). This is a question that many flail around, unable to find the answer or trying to adapt to one which doesn’t...
18 Reasons To Go To a Coach or Therapist
If I were to begin my adventure with personal development once again, I would definitely refrain from taking so many seminars, which I paid for without considering how they would benefit me, and I would instead spend that money on...
What does it really mean “to have an open mind”?
One of the popular phrases doing rounds among the changework community is “you should have an open mind”. And I do agree that having an open mind is valuable; it’s just that the phrase means something quite different from what...