How self-fulfilling prophecies are ruining people’s lives (including yours)
There is one particular phenomenon that saddens me personally, but fascinates me profesionally. It happens when people experience failure as a result of their own mistake or series of mistakes, but think that the cause of this failure...
What men need to understand about relationships
When there is a crisis or breakup between partners because of strong emotions, the primal, unconscious mechanisms often take over. Many times I’ve seen men use the same strategies that worked in relationships with their mothers...
Why the change needs to be holistic
When you’re making a significant personal change, you will have to alter many aspects of your life. Sometimes this happens automatically, but most often it doesn’t. For example, when an alcoholic decides that he is finally going...
How spirituality or therapy can actually be a problem, not a solution.
The essence of both therapy and spirituality is proper, conscious relationship with the here and now. In therapy, we distance ourselves from dysfunctional cognitive, emotional, and behavioral patterns that we have learned in the past....
What an ego actually is…
… and why we can transcend it but not live without it. For some time now, in certain self-development circles, there has been a trend for practices that allegedly lead to abandoning or even destroying an ego—in the name of...
18 Reasons To Go To a Coach or Therapist
If I were to begin my adventure with personal development once again, I would definitely refrain from taking so many seminars, which I paid for without considering how they would benefit me, and I would instead spend that money on...
One of the most powerful mental exercises I know
There is a mental exercise that I have been doing once in a while for many years now; it’s one of the most powerful exercises I’ve ever known. I consider seriously whether, if I were to leave this world tonight, I would be satisfied...
How I have made my dream come true in just one day
My Inner Child has been deserving this for 25 years. As far back as I can remember, a safari journey and communing with wild African animals was a dream that kept me awake at nights. In kindergarten, I spent hours poring over picture...
How achieving success may harm you
Many books have been written about how traumatic or painful experiences can harm an individual’s well-being. I have the impression, though, that the other side of the coin is rarely talked about—that is, the harmful impact that...
Why traveling will not make you happy
I’m in Knossos. I feel like I’m going to burn while I listen to the tour guide. The temperature of 40 degrees Celsius (104 degrees Fahrenheit) hinders us from admiring the remnants of the cradle of European civilization. Besides...