How to Become a Better Coach, Therapist, or Changeworker
Unlike my ‘How to Become a Better Trainer’ article, in which I suggested just one key thing that would benefit most self-development and changework trainers, the challenge of ‘How to Become a Better Changeworker’ is a bit more...
How To Become a Better Trainer
Having trained with a lot of trainers, from completely unknown, to some world-class people (and some world-famous, as the two don’t actually go together all that often) , I’ve had the chance to observe both what works and what...
What Should You Use Instead of Affirmations?
Affirmations—in which you repeat or write down positive words and sentences so that they can be absorbed by the subconsciousness—are very popular among people starting their adventure with self-development. No wonder: they are...
The “I don’t need to explain myself” mentality
Once in a while you see them, online or in real life. People making some claim or statement, often to show off or promote their ideology, who, when challenged, contemptuously reply “I don’t need to explain myself to you.” At...
Everything you believe about self-confidence is a lie
Well, kind of. Shy people, and people with confidence problems, do not generally lack self-esteem. In fact, they tend to have the opposite problem—they have an inflated sense of their own importance! I first encountered this idea...
7 Lessons I’ve Learned From Running a Coaching Business For Almost a Decade
My company ChangeMakers has already been in business for ten years. During that time I have had opportunities to make a lot of mistakes, but I have also found some interesting solutions. I thought it would be worth writing about them...
How to Be a Real Man?
How to be a real man? An extremely important question to a great number of guys (and a moderate number of their partners). This is a question that many flail around, unable to find the answer or trying to adapt to one which doesn’t...
What does it really mean “to have an open mind”?
One of the popular phrases doing rounds among the changework community is “you should have an open mind”. And I do agree that having an open mind is valuable; it’s just that the phrase means something quite different from what...
Attitude, Beliefs, and Cancer – the Fact and the Fiction
Out of many myths about the human mind, this one is, perhaps, the most insidious one. Its danger spawns from its targeting an already vulnerable population, namely, cancer patients, and pulling them even further down, suggesting that...
The myth of repressed memories
We all know the scene. The hypnotist bends over the client, swinging his pendulum, uttering the “magic spell”, something like “and now, remember!!! buuuuu!!!!” (all right, all right, I added the buuuu!!!! to build the proper...